Complimentary- A guide to a well placed compliment

Whenever I think of compliments, the old cliche "well you look really nice" comes to mind. Men since the dawn of time have been trying to find a way that they can tell women how they feel about them without coming off as a weirdo. I struggled with this for years until I met a man who had mastered it. He taught me the importance of compliments and more importantly their power. You see, men are mostly visual creatures, and women are much more audibly based. Hence men like movies with hot girls and women like Jane Austin. (at least generally speaking) So it works perfectly as men should have the ability to spot something they like about a woman, and women want to hear it. A mastery of language will go a long way when it comes to courting a woman.
In order to craft a compliment that will ring throughout the ages and win her heart, a compliment must have three characteristics: Originality, Sincerity, and Delivery.

1. Originality-

• Absolutely no pick up lines, using a pick up line is guaranteed to land you in the dog house. A compliment needs to be original, even unique to the woman to whom it is being paid. You need to come up with something better than, "I like your dress." Many women work hard on their appearance in hopes that we (men) will notice along with the other women.  
• Try taking a moment next time you have the urge to say "nice dress" and instead look at her honestly. Find something that is beautiful, be creative, it can be her hair, her dress, her shoes, it could be all of her. Then craft a statement, say something like "I love the way you make that outfit work so well", or "I love the way you have done your hair, it compliments you so well"

2. Sincerity-

• When it comes to crafting a well-placed compliment, sincerity might be the most important part. No one wants to feel pitied, so it is important that what ever you do say,YOU MEAN IT!! This is why the last tip is important, try to compliment something you really do like about her.  It always helps to take a moment to pause and be taken back by her beauty, this will help to ensure sincerity is communicated.
• Another great way to craft a compliment is to always compliment something about her, not just about what she is wearing. Now the compliment on looks does good, but a compliment that compliments her as a person is always better. For example, "I love how you are always so kind" or "I feel so good being around you because of your always so bright and happy." 

3. Delivery- 

• I am a strong advocate of timing, even a great compliment can be lost if not delivered properly. Always wait to compliment her when you have a moment alone. Right as you walk in the door for a date is a bad idea. Often there could be family, roommates, dogs, and her to interrupt your compliment. 
• Please make sure that the compliment does come early in the date, she will be wondering what you think about her outfit, so within the first ten minutes is a good rule to live by. 
• A great time to compliment a woman is during conversation, my favorite is when you open her door and she says "thank you," you say "you're welcome, hey I just wanted to say, you look absolutely wonderful tonight," (take a 1 second pause) Try to slid it in during conversation, its bad to interrupt a silence with the first comment being a compliment, it can be awkward.
• Pausing can also be powerful, after you compliment her let about one second go by after she says "thank you," just to let things sink in. 

Warnings: Classic pitfalls for compliments. 

1. Never become insecure about a compliment, if you say it, own it. 

2. If she try's to push off the compliment, reinforce with a simple yet solemn, I mean it.

3. Never be afraid to compliment her, even if you could be in earshot of someone else! 

Remember when it comes to communicating with a woman, clear and confident is the key. I hope these tips help you to win the heart of that woman you love. Strong compliments are just one of the many skills a woman will want in a true gentlemen, and if you master them, well just try it and see what happens. =)

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